Trying to remember who we are and what we love to do amidst the chaos of motherhood is a crucial lesson.
Singing is just that for me. It is uplifting, fun, challenging, rewarding. I sing because nothing beats coming together with others, united by music to provide the best buzz going.
I joined a choir when my oldest boy was 6 months. It was a chance to get out of the house and do something for me. So much more than music, it was a support group. We understood eachother’s sleepless nights. We laughed over leaking boobs. We sang to forget how awful our night had been. Leaving the room after a choir session, I felt I’d been to therapy.
The physical and mental positive effects that group singing can have on you are nothing new. But it becomes even more powerful to hear what singing while pregnant is claimed to:
connect you and your baby
calm and relax your baby
gives your baby a ‘sound massage’ – studies have shown that babies listen and learn words, songs and sounds from approx. 23 weeks gestation onwards!
increases oxygen flow to your baby
helps speech development
Eight years ago, a friend and I set up a choir for new mums where the activity focuses on the needs of the mother, but in a safe and nurturing environment for the child. And so, nůmama choir was born.
At nůmama sevenoaks we come together weekly with other (exhausted) mums, whose common thread is not only our children, but creating music together, and reminding ourselves that we are women who have talents above scraping banana mush off the floor! As one of our members remarked, ‘It’s so nice being told you’re doing something right for once.’ It’s not just the mums who love the music of course, we hear many anecdotes of nůmama kids singing songs their mums didn’t even know they knew in the back of the car… it’s a lovely, bonding thing to do together.
So no matter what activity you do, find something to do for yourselves. Whether that’s singing, gym, painting or yoga… there are many classes where you can bring your babies with you, and join in if they are happy and safe. This doesn’t mean that you’re being a bad mum, or that you don’t love your baby – in fact you are probably inspiring them with your passion and proving the age old philosophy – happy mummy equals happy baby.